I have gained and lose weight a lot in my life, and right now I am doing extremely well with weight loss. I am eating healthier, moving a lot more, and just overall feeling better.
When I do talk about my weight loss, people always ask me if I have any advice. I used to answer this question. It is no huge secret how to lose weight. It is not easy by any stretch of the imagination, but the eating less and moving more aspect has been around since the beginning of time.
But when I used to tell people this, they would argue. They would ask me if I tried this or this and I should do this and what about this and I always got confused. I realized that many people did not want my answer. They wanted a way that they can enjoy everything and still reach their goals. I am not that person. Alcoholics fool themselves all the time by saying they are stronger than one drink. Gamblers fool themselves by saying they will only bet on the Super Bowl. I am an obsessive eater. I cannot enjoy everything in a way like I did and still reach the goals I want.
That is why diet pills and other items in the weight loss world make billions. Because they promise an easy dream. There are things that would help others like a sleeve or a doctor approved plan. But that still is hard. Weight loss is not easy. None of it.
The point I am making is people get mad in life when they ask a question and do not get the answer they want. I do not understand this nor do I understand why people ask if they only want their answer.
But if you follow me on social media, you also know I deal with baseball cards. I have since I was eight years old. My brother, at a young age, taught me what to look for in players and cards and products. Believe it or not, not much of it has changed in how I collect and sell. I do not like dealing with high end cards. I like cards under $20. I try to look at stats of players and sell the best cards at the best price. And this has kept me afloat since my business went under.
But lately, people have been asking me questions that they do not want my answer for. They ask me how much a card is worth and I am honest about it, and they say I am wrong. Why ask then? When I tell you that your 1987 Bo Jackson is not worth $500, it isn’t. When i well you that a card as issues, it does.
I do not understand why people cannot accept the truth. I just don’t. This week, a guy asked me if I can help him with evaluating his sports card collection. So he showed me, and it was a few 80’s junk wax cards and a poor condition Ozzie Newsome rookie. So I was honest and told him the Newsome might be worth $15 to the right buyer. He told me I was an idiot and the Newsome was worth $400,000. Now, usually I would say fuck off and move on, but I had to ask where he got this from. Some article from some unknown place had a PSA perfect 10 Ozzie Newsome rookie valued at $400,000. So then I told him to fuck off and blocked him.
I guess what I am getting at is if you cannot handle an answer, do not ask a question. Weight loss is not easy for me. It takes every bit of grit for me to pass on portions and push myself to go to the gym. Nothing I do is easy. Same with evaluating a collection. I hate telling people their sports cards are worthless, but I am honest.
And my point is, do not ask a question you do not want answered honestly.
I am not good at lying.
Those are the people who aren’t *really* asking a question or looking for an answer, they are just looking for confirmation (or affirmation) of their own beliefs.
My husband does that with the “Where do you want to eat tonight?” question. And then shoots down every suggestion. Joe, DON’T ASK if you already know where you want to go! Just say, “I feel like XXX tonight, how about you?” Ok, vent over.
This guy also sounds like he was just wanting to lord his “superior knowledge” over yours 🤨. The one good thing about people doing that is that it’s a quick litmus test for future relationships!
And yeah, there’s no getting around the sacrifices, sweat and exhaustion of weight loss. It’s just the way it is and it sucks! But you are kicking ass 💯